what respecting yourself ACTUALLY looks like (and why people hate it)

 

if you don't have people that dislike you or get upset at you then you don't respect yourself and I know that that sounds crazy but that pretty much just

means that you're kind of teetering towards what everybody else expects from you or what everybody else wants or needs from you I feel like that constant

desire to appeal to every single person is disrespecting yourself for example somebody last week asked me to study and

I know the type of person I am I know that if I study with a friend, I'm not going to get work done because we're going to talk the whole time so I was blunt and I said no because I respected

myself enough to know that I'm not going to be productive if I study with you and there were no hard feelings on my end but that person dislikes me now and I

feel like it's moments like this that kind of emphasize what I'm talking about because if I compromise with this person and then study with them I would not

have studied effectively I would not be showing my self respect because I'm doing something that I know wouldn't benefit me just so I can make another

person happy and that's why I say that if you don't have people that dislike you or get upset at you, you're not respecting yourself because you cannot

make everybody happy it's borderline impossible and if you don't have a single person that gets upset at you or dislikes you then that just means you're

a people pleaser and I'm going to keep using myself as an example I feel like I was a

huge people pleaser coming into college I would say that it definitely comes from an insecurity from the past where I just feel like I need people to like me

and I would constantly improve myself grow myself as a person so I can be that person that everybody likes be that person that has no enemies but as I get

a little bit older and as I mature a little bit I'm starting to recognize I could care less about how many people like me or how many people love me as

long as I have consistent good intentions as long as I am a good person in my heart then the people that are for me will come to me and the people that

are not for me won't come around me and I recognize that every single time I was a people pleaser or every single time I

needed somebody to appreciate me more than I appreciated myself I realized that was more so me loving myself more

than I respected myself because yeah I love myself every day I can look in the mirror love the man that I'm looking at I can go outside and know that I love

myself full-heartedly but I disrespect myself constantly I always thought that I respected myself because I loved myself but now I'm realizing that just

because you love somebody and just because you love yourself doesn't necessarily mean that you're going to respect yourself or you're going to respect another person another example

let's say I love the way I look I love everything about myself as a person I can still go in the mirror and self-deprecate I can still go in the

mirror and just pick out any insecurity that I may have versus respecting myself I would never go in the mirror and self-deprecate I would never go in the

mirror and look for any flaws or insecurities that I may have because I respect myself far too much to disrespect myself and I cannot emphasize

or stress enough how important the difference actually is because you can love anybody can love you but that doesn't mean they're going to

respect you and if you don't even respect yourself you can never count on anybody to respect you, I feel like people constantly disrespecting

themselves is exactly why good things don't happen to people that's exactly why people are so unsuccessful in life because if I wake up every single

morning with the goal of working out or reading something and doing something productive and then I don't accomplish any of that in the day because I

disrespected myself let's say I just went to a party or let's say I just slept in all day I set out all of those goals and then I blatantly disrespected

Myself by not doing any of it so now when I wake up and I try to set the same exact goals I'm not going to accomplish any of it not because I don't have the

motivation this time but it's because I don't respect myself why would I respect myself if I've constantly proven to myself that I'm disrespecting myself if

you gave one of your friends an important test T that could make or break your future and then they don't do it and then you give them the same exact

task the next day so they can redeem themselves and they once again don't do it they going to startop respecting that person to handle that decision the same

way that a lot of us wake up wondering why we don't have the motivation or wondering why we can't stick to these goals that we set out is because we

don't respect ourselves enough to actually do it we don't even respect ourselves to believe that we can do it that's why I feel like respecting

yourself is so crucial in any person that wants to be successful because I can promise you right now screen record this video save it for 15 years in the

future I promise you anybody that disrespects themselves on a daily basis will not be successful and I know that everybody watching this video is

thinking the same thing why is he talking so much get to the point what does respecting yourself actually look like I would say that respecting

yourself is the little things and I feel like everything that I say about respecting yourself also can apply to another person so yeah respecting

another person goes down to the little things as well but it's really the little things like staying up late when you know you shouldn't that's not

respecting yourself not taking care of your hygiene that's not respecting yourself I went 2 weeks without giving myself a haircut and I feel like most

people would say it's not that serious and it's not that big of a deal but the way that I see it is that if somebody wants me to cut their hair once a week

I'm going to do what I can to cut their hair once a week so why would I not show myself that same amount of respect and I feel like every single time you dismiss

those little things like for me giving myself that haircut you kind of show yourself that you're not a priority you're not a priority to yourself and

that kind of leads to self-deprecation because if you don't respect yourself enough what makes you think another person is going to respect you the same way the little things that people don't

even realize are so crucial to a person's development mentally physically and spiritually laughing off something

disrespectful that somebody said because you're too scared that you're going to come off as mean if you hold them accountable skipping out on taking care of your hygiene skipping out on

exercising skipping out on talking to God I feel like it's in these moments that you fail at respecting yourself and it's these moments that you fail at

being the type of person that's ready to receive actual success because like I said if you don't respect yourself you're not getting any type of success

anytime soon I started to respect myself so much more recently after I came to college and I realized how many people are going to get upset at you for that

they may not entirely dislike you but they may be upset at you and I feel like if you keep letting that people pleasing mentality get to you, you're going to try

to make everybody happy except for yourself you're going to disrespect yourself so much that you inevitably stop loving yourself so if you take away

anything from this video loving yourself is important yes but respecting yourself is so much more important and respecting

yourself is the only way that you're going to be successful in life thank you guys for watching I appreciate you guys and I'll see you guys’ next time peace

 

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